"When I'm at home, I would                   rather be traveling; when I'm traveling, I'd rather be at home.  Sometimes when I'm feeling lonely, what I want  most is to be social and have a billion friends... and then if I find 
myself at a party wanting 
to go home and be by
myself. There is a reason for that.
Lou's Views
"We punish ourselves for 
perceived flaws, yet we would be 
willing to forgive others but not 
"To strive, to seek, to find and not to yield"---unknown
   Learned helplessness 
is a psychological condition in which a human being or an animal has learned to act or behave helpless in a particular situation, even when it has the power to change its unpleasant or even harmful circumstance. Learned helplessness theory is  the view that clinical depression and mental illness result from a perceived absence of control over the outcome of a situation 
(Seligman, 1975). 
Learn from it and let it go.  The future is not even here yet. Plan for it but do not waste your time worrying about it.  Worrying is worthless. When you stop ruminating about what has already happened, when you stop worrying about what might never happen, then you will be in the present moment."---unknown
 "Life can either be accepted or changed.  If it is not accepted, it must be changed.  If it cannot be changed, then it must be accepted" author unknown
"In an insane society a sane man appears insane"---unknown
"Language...has created the 
word "loneliness" to express 
the pain of being alone.  And it has created the word "solitude" to express the glory of being alone."---Paul Tillich
Anxiety is being 'afraid' when there is nothing to fear.
We struggle with something in the dark, but we don't know what it is.
From somewhere and yet nowhere seeps out a vague feeling of threat.
Floating around in our body, unsettling our stomach, a generalized sense of menace possesses our whole being.  This uneasiness has no identifiable cause.  Our anxiety is seldom an object of consciousness that we can focus on;  rather, it seems to be a deep, inner state of our being,  which makes itself felt without the aid of conceptual thought
—indeed against our fervent wish to be free of anxiety.  In angst we confront the fundamental precariousness of existence;  our being is disclosed as unspeakably fragile and tenuous.  And when it bursts thru the protective shell in which we try to encapsulate it,  our anxious dread renders us helpless.
To see one's 
difficulty clearly 
is the first step
in going beyond it.
Be yourself!  
Everyone else has been taken.
"For some, living from day to day seems 
easier than for others.  Nature vs. nurture notwithstanding, I  believe most of us 
have largely been  conditioned to 
react the way we do to life's joys and 
challenges.  That implies we can choose 
to recondition ourselves."  Lou

As we age,  the mathematical probability that the number of past  negative decisions we have made in life increases.  Many  are still grieving losses resulting from those decisions, years later.  Hopefully, with that extra time we have learned the wisdom necessary to cope appropriately.

Research indicates that 15 to 20% of humans and many other animal species are born more sensitive to hearing, tasting, touching, smelling, observing etc. than the majority.  It is theorized that over long periods of time evolution has selected this percentage as adequate to protect the herd, community, tribe, pact etc.   By nature, this extra sensitive minority are usually the leaders.

"Highly sensitive" students in the far eastern culture are generally considered the most admired and well liked.  Our western "John Wayne / Clint Eastwood" culture, however, generally perceives "high sensitivity" as a weakness.  

If you are a "highly sensitive person"  you will by  our western perception be considered "abnormal"---Lou 
                 Learn to honor 
         your sensitivity! 
"Life is either a daring adventure or nothing"
Helen Keller
        "Cover the entire earth with rubber or  
         slip on a pair of tennis shoes"---Lou   .
Waiting is a state of 
mind, the usual state 
of mind. Presence is 
when you're no longer 
waiting for the next 
moment, believing that 
the next moment will 
be more fulfilling than 
this one---Eckhart Tolle
 "Apologizing does not always mean you are wrong and the other person is right.  It just means 
you value your 
relationship more 
than your ego."

On Social Isolation
"On stage I make love to twenty 
five thousand people and then 
I go home alone."---Janis Joplin
Power over others is weakness disguised as strength.
If you want to go fast, go alone.  If you want to go far, go together---African proverb
No doubt, life can be hard at times but
"...suicide, although a way out, 
       is rather a mean and shabby one...
it is nobler and finer to be conquered by 
life than to fall by ones own hand..."
Hermann Hesse

P.S. Please talk with someone first 
911 or myself at 250-5984
"At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want."---lao szu
  Expectations can be premeditated resentments
One mark of a "successful" person is being able to 
spend the entire day 
relaxing without feeling
 guilty about it.
"Today is the tomorrow I                worried about yesterday"  
"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle."---Socrates

Prisoner of Earth
"A person can spend one's whole life between four walls. If one doesnt think or feel that he or she is in a prison, then he is not a prisoner. But, there are people for whom the whole planet is a prison, who see the infinite expanse of the universe, the millions of stars and galaxies that remain 
forever inaccessible 
to them.  And that 
awareness makes 
them the greatest 
prisoner of time and 
space." ---Vladimir Barton
"The harder we try to catch hold of the moment, to seize a pleasant sensaton, the more elusive 
it becomes. It's like trying to clutch water in your hand--the harder we grip, the faster it slips through our fingers."---Alan Watts
"It is futile to be obstinate about the inevitable."
I'll never be able to stop drinking or drugging if I don't figure out what caused me to start in the first place
"Because the thing seems difficult for you, do not think it is impossible for anyone to accomplish.  But whtever is possible for another, believe that you, too, are capable of it."---Marcus Aurelius
is when from somewhere and yet nowhere seeps out a vague feeling of threat floating around in our body, unsettling our stomach, a generalized sense of menace possesses our whole being.
Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.

Given the choice between the experience of pain and nothing, I would choose pain. 
William Faulkner
In all our searching, the only thing wev'e found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other"Carl Sagan
“The most terrible 
poverty is loneliness,
 and the feeling of
being unloved.” 
 Mother Teresa
“I have absolutely no pleasure in the stimulants in which I sometimes so madly indulge.  It has not been in the pursuit of pleasure that I have periled life and reputation and reason.  It has been the desperate attempt to escape from torturing memories, from a sense of insupportable loneliness and a dread of some strange impending doom.” 
---Edgar Allan Poe

“Sometimes being surrounded by everyone is the loneliest, because you’ll realize you have no one to turn to.”  
He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.
"A finite mind cannot comprehend an
infinite universe, thus making the
unimaginable a probability."
"How sharper than a serpent's tooth is an unthankful child" 
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Are you going through the agony associated with having a loved one addicted to the use of drugs or alcohol.  
Maybe I can assist!  
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"Man's main concern is not to gain
pleasure or to avoid pain but rather to
see a meaning in his life. 
That is why man is 
even ready to suffer, on 
the condition, to be sure, 
that his suffering has 
meaning." Victor Frankel
A painful feeling isn't being lonely, it's being 
forgotten by 
someone you'd 
never forget.
Without fear there can be no courage, only recklessness..
Saying someone can't be sad because someone else may have it worse is like saying someone can't be happy because someone else may have it better.
"Loneliness does not come from having no people around, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible."  Carl Jung
Double click here to add text.Great talents are the most lovely and often the most dangerous fruits on the tree of humanity. They hang upon the most slender twigs that are easily snapped Great talents are the most lovely and often the most dangerous fruits on the tree of humanity. They hang upon the most slender twigs that are easily snapped off. Carl Jungoff. Carl Jung
Great talents are the most lovely and often the most dangerous fruits on the tree of humanity. They hang upon the most slender twigs that are easily snapped off. ---Carl Jung
Feel like this sometimes?